Why Are You Single?

Recently I was having a conversation with a guy and he said “so tell me, you seem like a very nice individual, very easy to get along with why don’t you have anyone special in your life?” You know whats crazy? I get that a lot! I mean A LOT! Meet people, women, men, even children and they ask that question in some form or another. Makes me wonder, why am i single? I am actually attractive, intelligent, pay my own way, can cook and cook well at that, so why am I by myself?……OK personally I think there are three main reasons for it….1. I probably was giving off the leave me alone vibe….doing it subconsciously because I wasn’t ready for a relationship and all that it entitles (i.e. lazy). Its a lot of work! I’m the type to go all out too, I’m talking going to the store for the groceries then to his place to cook, giving pedicures, washing hair, anything you ask for, type. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. All black men have the potential to be a king, you just have to know how to wear the crown. So unless he’s worth it (i.e. rocking that crown right)….why bother. 2. Just haven’ t met someone whose ready for me. Its as simple as that, I’ve been actually told before that by someone I was involved with and no dude wasn’t just playing me, he was sincere with it and I can respect that. Also I can sense when I guy who is feeling me realizes he’s not ready for me. I feel it in the air, all of a sudden he looks at me differently, tilts his head to side as if he thinking; “damn this girl is the truth, something special bout her, but I just don’t got the energy to put in the type of work she’ll require me too. Oh well, hey look over there at that girl, yeah she seems dumb as rocks but %*&! I’m not going to have to work too hard for that. I’ll come back to this when I’m ready.” I swear, I see the look in their eyes! I can hear their thoughts! So my advice to all those brothas out their looking for something real, get off your lazy ass and put some work into it! Yeah, those bucket heads are quick, easy, fun but just like cheap food, you’ll get tired of it quick and when you want that plate of mac and cheese (from scratch!) baked chicken and biscuits……you gonna find it in front of a white man!